Things To Do When You Should Be Doing Homework At The Last Minute
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I believe that it is up to us to teach them, but there comes a point when they NEED to start doing things on their own!
First, STOP HELPING HER!!! I think this is enabling her behavior.
I have 4 chidlren and I was having this problem with my 9 year old. The rule in our house is come home and do home work immediately. Then you study if you have a test to prepare for.
I spoke to her teacher and explained that I was now turing over the responsibility of doing homework to my daughter. I would still be checking her agenda and going over homework that was complete, but it was time that she learned what the consequenses would be if she did not complete her assignement.
We told her that she has been taught the importance of school and what we expected of her. The rule has always been, we do not care what grade you bring home as long as you put forth 100% effort. That means if you get a B, you better have turned in all your assignments and studied for every test. If not, you will suffer the consequenses.
We let it go for an entire quarter. She lost a few recesses and suffered the consequeses at school. Then she had to deal with the consequenses at home. I can tell you she quickly turned herself around for the next quarter.
Yes, as parents it is our responsibility to guide them, but there comes a time when they need to step up! Your child is 12 , that is 7th grade, yes?
You need to set strict rules of what you expect from her. Sit her down and go over them. Make sure she understands what the consequenses will be for not following them. You need to stop helping her at the last minute complete her projects. Be firm and say no.
THere should be no tv, computer, phone or activities until she has homework done and studied. If she has an agenda, check it periodically and ask her what is going on in school. Encourage her, but also remind her she needs to establish good study and work habits before she goes to high school. I know it's hard because some teachers let them do their work in school and we don't get a chance ot check it.
Ultimately, your daughter needs to suffer some consequenses of not completing her work. Maybe also throw a reward in there too. Come up with an incentive for her to do well. Maybe $5.00 for each A she gets? Maybe a special event if she makes honor roll? Something she can work towards. Some kids just aren't motivated.
With summer coming, you have a little bit to decide how you are going to handle the situation. I would sit her down before school and just tell her how it's going to be.
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Like a kindly but not disinterested teacher in need of good results, David Cameron has extended the deadline, allowing the mainly youthful (and, he might quietly hope, more EU-friendly) late surge to register. It’s safe to assume most of them were aware of the deadline but had just put things off.
Procrastination can feel like a self-destructive compulsion, but a lot of research suggests it can be a good thing, whether or not your deadline gets moved. Professor Adam Grant, an American psychologist and author, says we should make time to procrastinate as a way to fuel creativity. In his book, Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World, he argues that creative people tend to procrastinate more.
Anna Abramowski, a British psychologist who studied the construct of procrastination at Cambridge University (and she handed in her masters thesis on time), says people who “actively procrastinate display a certain level of self-reliance, autonomy and self-confidence because they are aware of the risk of subjecting themselves to last-minute pressures and still consciously decide to. That can be a good thing, because it stimulates creativity and enables them to engage in multiple tasks at the same time.”
Other suggested causes include a strict upbringing, in which putting things off till the last minute becomes a form of rebellion, inherited personality traits, and a fear of failure or even success. Do something too soon and too well and you risk getting saddled with more work and responsibility. Or, put something off and do it worse so you get to blame the failure on procrastination more than any other shortcoming.
There is a simpler reason which may apply in the EU referendum case: the illogical perception of time, which we tend to see in terms, semesters, seasons or quarters. In a study devised to show how this works, 295 people were told to open a bank account for a charitable fund. They would be rewarded if the fund accumulated a certain amount in six months. But those who were given a December deadline in June were much more likely to open the account sooner than those who were given a January deadline in July. Much like the EU referendum – it just felt too distant to worry about.